HOW TO MANAGE JEALOUSY IN A COMMITTED RELATIONSHIP

I read this post on Instagram and decided to share it with you.

“We have been together for three years. Our love was steady, warm, and full of promise. 
One evening, during a friend’s wedding, I noticed that my husband was laughing a little too freely with a woman I didn’t know.
Inside me jealousy clawed. My mind whispered: “Who is she? Does he like her? Am I not enough?”
The old me would have kept quiet and let the resentment pile up. But this time, I chose honesty. That night I said gently:
 

“Honey, I felt uncomfortable seeing you with her. I trust you, but I want you to know how it made me feel.”
My husband paused, surprised, but then pulled me close.
 “Baby, thank you for telling me instead of shutting down. You are my choice—always. I’ll be more mindful.”

That small conversation changed everything. I realized that my feeling of jealousy wasn’t a sign of my husband's betrayal—it was a mirror reflecting my own fears. And together, we decided to turn those fears into fuel for building deeper trust.”
Jealousy is a complex, negative emotion encompassing feelings of anger, fear, suspicion, and insecurity, usually triggered by a perceived threat to a valued relationship or possession from a third party.

 Here's your take home, jealousy is an emotion which sometimes creeps on you and leaves you thinking that you cannot control it. , BUT  destructive jealousy is a choice. 

What you do when you feel jealous is your choice, Like this couple, you too can manage it by:

📍Naming the feeling instead of hiding it.
📍Speaking with honesty, rather than accusations.
📍Seeking reassurance, while also working on self-confidence.
📍Turning moments of insecurity into opportunities for connection.
 The truth is, jealousy doesn’t have to break your relationship, because when handled with honesty and love, it can actually strengthen your bond. 

So, learn to turn moments of jealousy into opportunities for deeper understanding, because love grows strongest where trust and vulnerability meet.

Written by Modupe Ehirim