HOW TO KEEP FALLING IN LOVE WITH THE SAME PERSON AGAIN AND AGAIN

“We’ve just grown apart.”
That’s one of the most painful statements I hear in my counseling sessions.
Not because it’s dramatic. But because it’s so common—and yet so preventable.
You see, no one gets married thinking they’ll fall out of love.

But life happens.
Kids come.
Bills pile up.
Schedules clash.
Romance fades.
And before you know it, you’re lying next to someone you barely recognize… and wondering what happened to the butterflies.
But here's the truth no one tells you enough:

> You don’t fall out of love—you stop doing the things that made you fall in love.
❤️ LOVE IS NOT A DESTINATION. IT’S A DAILY DECISION.
Falling in love is easy.
Staying in love is intentional.
If you want to keep the passion alive for decades, you have to stop coasting and start cultivating love on purpose.
Here’s the secret:
> The couples who still flirt, laugh, touch, and grow together aren’t lucky. They’re disciplined

🛑7 WAYS TO KEEP FALLING IN LOVE WITH THE SAME PERSON
1. Date Each Other Weekly—No Excuses
Before you were married, you pursued each other. You made time, dressed up, and created memories. Why stop now? Even a simple walk, a coffee date, or a homemade dinner with phones off can work wonders. 📍 Remember: romance doesn’t have to be expensive—just intentional.

2. Flirt Like Teenagers (Yes, Even After 20 Years)
Playful touches. Inside jokes. Love notes. Random winks. These little moments say: “I still choose you.” Never underestimate how a silly moment can spark a serious connection.

3. Stay Curious—Keep Discovering Each Other
Ask deep questions. Dream together. Reflect on your journey. People change. So does your spouse.
Get to know the version of them they are today.
Try this: “What’s one thing you’ve always wanted to do that we’ve never done together?”

4. Speak Love in Their Language (Daily!)
We already talked about the 5 love languages.
Now the goal is to make it a daily habit. Consistency over grand gestures. A steady drip of love keeps the heart full.

5. Invest in Shared Experiences
Travel together. Serve at church. Take a cooking class. Start a small business. Volunteer. Pray. Shared purpose strengthens shared love. 📍 Couples who build memories together build unbreakable bonds.

6. Protect Your Emotional Connection
Disconnect from distractions.
Talk—really talk. Not just about bills and kids. Talk about dreams, fears, and faith. 📵 Put the phones down.
👀 Look each other in the eyes.
🗣️ Listen with your heart, not just your ears.

7. Keep Touching
Hold hands in public. Hug before you leave. Cuddle while watching TV.
Physical touch isn’t just about $£x—it’s about closeness.
Touch says, “I’m here. I’m yours. We’re in this together.”

🛠️ BUT WHAT IF YOU’VE GROWN APART ALREADY?
That’s okay. You’re not too far gone.
Love is a garden.
It doesn’t di£ overnight. But it does di£ from neglect.

🌱 The good news? If you start watering it today, you’ll see signs of life again.
Start small.
Surprise them with their favorite meal.
Text them something sweet in the middle of the day.

Ask for a date night—even if it’s just in the living room.
Tiny acts of love create massive waves of reconnection.

🔥 YOUR MARRIAGE CAN STAY BEAUTIFUL—BUT NOT BY ACCIDENT
You fell in love the first time because of effort.
You’ll keep falling in love through intentionality.
So, don’t let routines steal your romance.
Don’t let the years dull your desire.
Don’t let your vows grow cold with time.
Instead, choose to keep loving.
Keep discovering.
Keep growing.
Keep pursuing.
📣 Fall in love. Stay in love. Repeat—daily.

💬 LET’S TALK:
What’s one thing you used to do when dating that you can bring back this week?
👇 Drop it in the comments. You might inspire another couple today.

You will not fail in marriage in Jesus name
Kindly share this message with your loved ones 🙏

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