One of the greatest mistakes many singles make today is to confuse spirituality with marital wisdom. Yes, prayer, fasting, and hearing from God are vital in choosing a life partner, but when spirituality is taken to extremes without balance, it can push people into wrong marriages. Marriage is not lived in the spirit; it is lived on earth. If you ignore wisdom and reality, your so-called spirituality may become a trap.
Here are 5 ways over-spiritualizing love can ruin your marital destiny:
1. Ignoring Red Flags in the Name of Faith
Many singles have seen obvious signs of bad character, anger, lies, irresponsibility, but brushed them aside, saying “God will change him” or “Love covers all things.” My dear, love does not change character; repentance and discipline do. If you close your eyes to red flags, your marriage will eventually open them for you painfully.
2. Mistaking Dreams for Due Diligence
Some singles will say, “I saw him in my dream, so he must be the one.” Beloved, dreams may guide, but they cannot replace investigation. Even Joseph in the Bible was called a just man before Mary was given to him. Do you know this person’s values, background, and habits? Or are you relying only on dreams and prophecies without asking the hard questions? That is how many have entered wrong unions.
3. Overlooking Compatibility in the Name of “Grace Will Cover It”
Compatibility matters, spiritually, emotionally, intellectually, and even sexually. Some people assume grace will automatically bridge all gaps. But in reality, if you don’t align on vision, values, and purpose, your marriage will constantly struggle. Don’t forget: prayer does not change personality differences; wisdom helps you choose rightly.
4. Rushing into Marriage Because of a “Prophetic Word”
I have counseled singles who married simply because someone declared, “That is your husband” or “Thus says the Lord.” My dear, even if someone gives you a prophecy, you must still test it with scripture, wisdom, and peace of mind. God is not the author of confusion. If your heart is unsettled, don’t rush. Prophecy should confirm, not confuse.
5. Neglecting Preparation for Marriage
Some singles spend all their single years praying for a spouse but never preparing for marriage. They know how to speak in tongues but don’t know how to communicate. They can fast for 21 days but can’t forgive small offenses. Marriage requires patience, emotional maturity, financial wisdom, and communication skills. Spirituality without preparation is like building a house with only prayers and no bricks, it will collapse.
Final Word for Singles
Dear single brother or sister, faith without wisdom is disaster in disguise. While you must seek God’s guidance, you must also open your eyes, ask questions, check values, and prepare adequately. Balance spirituality with wisdom, and you will avoid tears tomorrow.
Read also >>> “Before You Say I Do” to open your eyes to the practical, spiritual, and emotional checks you must make before saying yes to anybody. Don’t gamble with marriage; it is too important for trial and error.
Here are 5 ways over-spiritualizing love can ruin your marital destiny:
1. Ignoring Red Flags in the Name of Faith
Many singles have seen obvious signs of bad character, anger, lies, irresponsibility, but brushed them aside, saying “God will change him” or “Love covers all things.” My dear, love does not change character; repentance and discipline do. If you close your eyes to red flags, your marriage will eventually open them for you painfully.
2. Mistaking Dreams for Due Diligence
Some singles will say, “I saw him in my dream, so he must be the one.” Beloved, dreams may guide, but they cannot replace investigation. Even Joseph in the Bible was called a just man before Mary was given to him. Do you know this person’s values, background, and habits? Or are you relying only on dreams and prophecies without asking the hard questions? That is how many have entered wrong unions.
3. Overlooking Compatibility in the Name of “Grace Will Cover It”
Compatibility matters, spiritually, emotionally, intellectually, and even sexually. Some people assume grace will automatically bridge all gaps. But in reality, if you don’t align on vision, values, and purpose, your marriage will constantly struggle. Don’t forget: prayer does not change personality differences; wisdom helps you choose rightly.
4. Rushing into Marriage Because of a “Prophetic Word”
I have counseled singles who married simply because someone declared, “That is your husband” or “Thus says the Lord.” My dear, even if someone gives you a prophecy, you must still test it with scripture, wisdom, and peace of mind. God is not the author of confusion. If your heart is unsettled, don’t rush. Prophecy should confirm, not confuse.
5. Neglecting Preparation for Marriage
Some singles spend all their single years praying for a spouse but never preparing for marriage. They know how to speak in tongues but don’t know how to communicate. They can fast for 21 days but can’t forgive small offenses. Marriage requires patience, emotional maturity, financial wisdom, and communication skills. Spirituality without preparation is like building a house with only prayers and no bricks, it will collapse.
Final Word for Singles
Dear single brother or sister, faith without wisdom is disaster in disguise. While you must seek God’s guidance, you must also open your eyes, ask questions, check values, and prepare adequately. Balance spirituality with wisdom, and you will avoid tears tomorrow.
Read also >>> “Before You Say I Do” to open your eyes to the practical, spiritual, and emotional checks you must make before saying yes to anybody. Don’t gamble with marriage; it is too important for trial and error.
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