"Do you like her?" I overheard some young men asking each other.
Liking someone.
Liking someone.
Liking someone means enjoying their company, looking forward to being with them, getting excited at the opportunity of meeting up.
Do you know that your spouse/partner can love you but not like you?
Yes, love is a decision. You can choose to love someone even though you don't enjoy their company. But liking is natural, it is the ability to natural attract someone to your personal space.
There are husbands who love their wives. They are faithful and wouldn't cheat on their wives, but they deliberately come home late, ignore their wives phone calls, fail to respond to messages, say very little, and look for excuses not to engage their wives because the wives are not likeable. The wives are toxic, emotionally draining, combative, constantly angry, blowing things out of proportion, difficult and stressful. Such men don't want to go out of their relationship/marriage, they can't leave the woman they love but they can't stand her. They wonder why the woman is so destructive. They pray for their woman in silence and avoid confrontation. Ladies, remember that you first attracted your man because you were likeable, are you still likeable or are you impossible to be with but expecting your man to enjoy you simply because he loves you?
There are wives who love their husbands. Divorce is not an option for them, they are committed to their marriage 100%. They love their husbands but they don't like their husbands. They play their role as a wife and manage the home but keep a distance from their husbands. They answer their husbands respectfully but with a short answer, they will avoid conflict even though they feel alone in the marriage, they will talk to God more about their husbands but talk to their husbands less, they will be polite but say little, they will prefer texting their husbands than calling to avoid weird conversations, they will walk to the other room when the husband comes in, the only time they make contact is in bed when sleeping then they wake up early to avoid him when he opens his eyes. These women want the best for their husbands, but they just don't enjoy their husband's company; they used to though. Husbands, are you likeable? Being likeable was what made her look forward to moments with you.
When you are likeable, your partner/spouse will keep coming back to you, keep spending time with you, keep making plans with you, keep dating you, keep calling you for no apparent reason but just to hear your voice, keep chatting with you and hanging out with you... We hang around friends we like, but do you like your partner/spouse?... You are loved by your partner/spouse, but are you liked?
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