Why Long Distance Marriage Doesn't Make Sense.

I know you need all the dollars, can't reject the promotion and we all seek the greener pasture. Fine.


Your spouse is giving you headache and you need the break, good!


Many men "run away" from marital challenges;  once any opportunity to travel out of the country or state presents itself, they grab it with both hands and legs! That is better than committing suicide or dying of high blood pressure.


Women do same!


More women are travelling out to make more money for hubby and kids. Good!


It's okay to seek more money and provide for your family.


It's okay to eradicate the shame of poverty and be seen as a financial hero upon your return from over seas!


It's okay to fend for your family and loved ones!

The challenge is, many things suffer; hubby suffers, wife suffers, children suffer -emotionally, psychologically, spiritually and physically.


Money is not the main reason we get married. We get married to help each other keep sane and whole. This helps us balanced to serve God, pursue our dreams and achieve success. When emotional, physical and sexual needs are not met, you have a very serious problem in your hand!


Your spouse needs to see you and talk daily, not just on phone but one on one. He or she needs to have sex at least once a week! Your children need your touch. They need  physical and emotional support. They need parental care, guide and training. Most importantly, they need both dad and mum together to feel safe and secure. No amount of money can do that.


There is too much emotional gap in long distance marriages. When one spouse is gone for 3 months, another for years, Jesus, what is that?


How do you guys have sex? Through sending nudes, video sex, flirty chats or what? Are you serious? How can you pump a man up showing him all the goodies and expect him to keep sane? A man is never going to be normal until he releases the sexual pressure you just put on him. A lady close by may help him douse the fire!


Pumped up women may seek sexual satisfaction from male friends while waiting for husband's arrival.


Adultery is getting rampant all over the places because people are living in denial!


Money is being placed over intimacy and friendship in marriage. 


Legitimate sex is being destroyed!


Nobody cares because you bring back the money, live large and the society respects you.


You can't eat your cake and have it!


Either travel with your family and enjoy all the money and intimacy together or stay together wherever you are and pray that God blesses with a job or business that won't take you too far from your family.


It's okay to travel out once in a while or as often as your business/ministry/career demands but when it is becoming too frequent, taking several months and years and your spouse is dying both physically, spiritually, emotionally and sexually, you need to sit down and wear your thinking cap.


May the Lord grant you understanding.

God bless you. Cheers!


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