LADIES, DON’T RUIN YOUR FIRST DATE – 12 THINGS TO AVOID

First dates are not marriage proposals. They’re simply an opportunity to get to know someone better in a relaxed, respectful setting. But too often, ladies unknowingly send the wrong signals or make preventable mistakes.

As a professional marriage therapist, here are 12 practical first date DON'T to help you make a great impression—without compromising your dignity.

1. 📍Don’t Offload Your Financial Problems
When he says, “Tell me about yourself,” he doesn’t mean, “List your debts.” A first date is not a fundraising dinner. Keep personal burdens private until real trust is established.

2. 📍Don’t Eat Like You’re on a Hunger Mission
If you're extremely hungry, eat something light at home. Ordering food for five people (plus takeaway) just because he said “Order what you want” shows poor discretion. You’re here to connect, not consume.

3. 📍Don’t Over share Too Soon
Guard your personal information. You don’t owe anyone your trauma history, family secrets, or ex drama on day one. Reveal who you are with wisdom and balance.

4. 📍Don’t Give Off Desperate Vibes
Avoid phrases like “My baby,” “My own,” or “I know you’re the one God sent to me” on the first date. Sis, breathe. You just met. Don’t chase him away with premature attachment.

5. 📍Don’t Start Acting Like You’re Already His Wife
You're not yet in a relationship. Don’t assume authority or entitlement. Calling him pet names or imagining wedding colors on the first outing may scare him off.

6. 📍Don’t Overspend His Wallet with Entitlement
Yes, it’s okay for him to pay—but don’t go out trying to exploit his generosity. Class is in how little you demand, not how much you can collect. Let your modesty speak louder than your appetite.

7. 📍Don’t Be Glued to Your Phone
Be present. Scrolling through Instagram or picking up calls every two minutes shows disrespect. Put your phone aside. The most attractive women are fully engaged and attentive.

8. 📍Don’t Dress Indecently
Presentation matters. Don’t overdress seductively or underdress carelessly. Dress modestly, beautifully, and comfortably. Let your elegance speak before your words do.

9. 📍Don’t Lose Your Identity to Impress Him
Don’t fake interests just to win his approval. Be confident in who you are. If you love books, say it. If you’re not into football, don’t pretend. Authenticity is magnetic.

10. 📍Don’t Talk Endlessly About Exes and Heartbreaks
It’s not the time to narrate how your ex broke your heart into pieces. You’ll come off as emotionally unavailable or still stuck in the past. Heal privately, date wisely.

11. 📍Don’t Try to Define the Relationship Too Early
You don’t need to ask, “So where is this going?” on the first date. It’s too soon. Let the process unfold naturally. Desperation is never attractive—discernment is.

12. 📍Don’t Use ‘Being Yourself’ as an Excuse for Carelessness
Yes, be yourself—but also be your best self. Confidence is attractive, but rudeness, carelessness, and entitlement aren’t. Represent Christ well and show maturity.

📍Final Word:
Dear sister, a first date is not an opportunity to prove your worth—it’s a moment to be graceful, observant, and wise. Carry yourself with dignity, enjoy the conversation, listen well, smile often, and let your value speak without shouting.