I watched a serious debate on Facebook between men and women about whether marriage favors one gender over the other. Some men argued that marriage primarily benefits women, claiming it is a punishment for men because they have to work tirelessly to provide for their wives and children for the rest of their lives. In contrast, women argued that marriage actually favors men because they are often expected to take care of their children and support their husbands emotionally. Some men even stated that if they had the understanding they possess today, they would choose not to get married.
The question is: Does marriage benefit both men and women?
The question is: Does marriage benefit both men and women?
A healthy, happy marriage is built on mutual love, trust, and intentional actions. While everyone is unique, most husbands and wives share common needs and joys in a loving relationship.
Here are things that both men and women typically enjoy in marriage — and how you can bring more of them into your home.
💙 What Husbands Often Enjoy in Marriage:
1. 📍Respect and Honor
> “However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.”
— Ephesians 5:33
A man deeply enjoys being respected by his wife — it strengthens his confidence and role as leader. Men feel deeply fulfilled when they are respected, especially in front of others. Respect speaks louder than love for many husbands.
2. 📍A Peaceful and Supportive Wife
> “It is better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife.”
— Proverbs 21:9
A man enjoys peace at Home – A calm, loving environment helps him recharge and feel safe. A husband treasures peace in the home and a wife who uplifts him rather than constantly tears him down.
3. 📍$exual Fulfillment and Delight
> “Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice in the wife of your youth… let her breasts satisfy you at all times.”
— Proverbs 5:18-19
God designed $ex as a gift in marriage, and a husband is to find joy and fulfillment in his wife.
4. 📍Encouragement and Support
> “Two are better than one… If either of them falls, one can help the other up.”
— Ecclesiastes 4:9-10
A husband enjoys knowing his wife stands by him in struggles and supports his dreams.
💥Emotional Support – A wife who believes in him, listens without judgment, and cheers him on through both wins and losses.
5. 📍Her Wisdom and Counsel
> “A prudent wife is from the Lord.”
— Proverbs 19:14
Men value a woman who is not just beautiful but also wise and spiritually discerning.
6. 📍Physical & Emotional Intimacy – Beyond $ex, husbands value being touched, held, kissed, and emotionally connected.
7. 📍Affirmation & Appreciation – Simple words like “Thank you for working hard” or “I’m proud of you” go a long way.
8. 📍Companionship – Sharing fun, laughter, movies, meals, and hobbies helps him feel connected beyond just being a provider.
9. 📍Shared Responsibilities – A wife who’s a teammate, not just a task-giver, makes marriage feel like a partnership.
10. 📍Admiration – Husbands love to feel admired for who they are, not just what they do.
11. 📍Freedom to Lead & Be Vulnerable – He thrives in a space where he can lead sometimes, and still be vulnerable without shame.
12. 📍Encouragement in His Dreams – A woman who supports his goals and celebrates his growth wins his heart repeatedly.
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💖 What Wives Often Enjoy in Marriage:
1. 📍Unconditional Love
> “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.” — Ephesians 5:25
A wife flourishes in a love that is sacrificial, consistent, and patient — just like Christ's love.
Consistent Love & Affection – Hugs, kisses, and holding hands aren’t optional — they’re emotional nutrients.
2. 📍Gentle Leadership and Understanding
> “Husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way… showing honor…”
— 1 Peter 3:7
She enjoys a husband who leads with kindness, listens with empathy, and values her opinions.
A wife enjoys walking in oneness with her husband — making decisions together and being treated as a true partner.
3. 📍Clear Communication – Wives thrive on open, honest, respectful conversations, not grunts and guesswork.
4. 📍Security & Trust – Emotional, physical, and financial security are the pillars of peace for most women.
A woman enjoys the security of knowing her husband is committed to caring for her and the family.
5. 📍Being Heard – She wants to be listened to with empathy, not just “fixed” like a problem.
6. 📍Romantic Love and Tenderness
– Flowers, notes, cuddles, unexpected “I love notes,” and surprise dates keep her feeling special.
She longs for romance, not just routine. Loving gestures, intimacy, and expressions of desire bring her joy.
7. 📍Appreciation for Her Sacrifices – Whether she’s working, mothering, or multitasking — her efforts deserve recognition.
> “Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her…”
— Proverbs 31:28
A wife delights in being seen, valued, and spoken of with appreciation.
8. 📍Help Without Asking – Doing the dishes, handling bedtime, or folding laundry without being told scores big.
9. 📍Emotional Safety & Trust
> “Perfect love casts out fear.”
— 1 John 4:18
A woman feels joy when she can express herself without fear of rejection or ridicule.
– She needs a place where she can cry, talk, or vent without judgment or dismissal.
10. 📍Shared Parenting – When you co-parent, she feels like she has a true partner, not just a roommate.
11. 📍Time & Presence – Quality time isn’t about quantity; it’s about undivided attention, even if it’s just 30 minutes.
💑 What Couples Enjoy Together:
1. 📍Shared Adventures – Whether it’s traveling, trying new foods, or hiking together, shared memories strengthen bonds.
2. 📍Laughter & Humor – A couple that laughs together, lasts together. Jokes, silly dances, or inside memes count!
3. 📍Building a Home & Legacy – Creating a shared vision, setting goals, and raising a family builds a solid foundation.
4. 📍Prayer & Spiritual Connection – Growing spiritually together draws couples closer to God and to each other.
5. 📍Celebrating Milestones – Birthdays, anniversaries, small wins — it all deserves to be celebrated together.
6. 📍Conflict Resolution – Healthy couples enjoy peace, not because they don’t fight, but because they fight fair and forgive often.
7. 📍Supporting Each Other’s Growth – Whether it’s a new career, weight loss goal, or spiritual journey — support is everything.
8. 📍$exual Fulfillment – Physical intimacy should be enjoyable, creative, and mutually satisfying — not a chore or duty.
🗝 Final Word:
Marriage is not about perfection — it’s about connection. The happiest couples are not the ones without problems, but the ones who keep choosing each other, over and over again.
Take time to understand what your spouse enjoys — and do it often. Love is an action word.
You will not fail in marriage in Jesus name
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