Thursday, June 6, 2024

How To Start A Relationship The Proper Way (Part 1)

This post will teach you the proper way to start a relationship and get the best results. 

A young man sent me a message recently seeking advice about how to go about starting a relationship.

According to him, he hasn't been in a relationship before but would want to enter one as he wants to settle down.
I put him through some things and we ended the counseling session.

In this post, I want to provide you with some guidelines on how to go about starting a relationship. It's going to be a 2 part article.
In this part, I'll be focusing on what to do before you start a relationship.

There are things you need to put in place before starting a relationship. 
This is very important because it will determine the trajectory of your relationship journey.

➡️ Things To Do Before You Start A Relationship.

✅Know Yourself.
Knowing yourself is the first step to having a productive relationship.

When you don't know yourself, you're going to make a lot of terrible mistakes. 

📌Things to know about yourself 
👉Know your purpose, why you exist 
👉Know your vision, what and who you want to become
👉Know your values, the things that are important to you
👉Know your worth
👉Know your direction in life 
👉Know your temperament 
👉Know your strengths 
👉Know your weak points 
👉Know your personality 
👉Know your aspirations.

Knowing these things about yourself will guide you in choosing a life partner.
It is your shoe size that will determine the type of shoe you buy. 

✅Know what you want in a partner 
Another thing to do is to know the qualities you want in a partner. If you don't know what you are looking for, when you see it you won't know.

So before starting a relationship with someone, establish realistic qualities you want in a partner. 
Qualities like godliness, character, respect, humility, discipline, responsibility, focus, family-oriented, caring, faithful, kind, forgiving, considerate, selfless, loving, etc. 

✅Be Ready 
Before you start a relationship, ensure you are ready to settle down. 
Don't enter a relationship when you're not ready to settle down. 
It's a waste of time and resources. 
Be ready... 

Heal completely from any heartbreak. Don't enter a relationship when you're yet to heal from heartbreak. 

Heal completely from trauma. Deal with your insecurity, self-esteem, and trust issues. 

Get over your ex completely. Don't start another relationship when you're still in love with your ex. 

You don't have to be rich but at least you should be able to take care of yourself and your bills.

We have many people looking for who will take care of them and their bills in the name of a relationship. 
You're looking for help not love. 
Don't be a needy partner. 

Learn about relationships
Learn how relationships are being run
Learn about marriage
Learn about communication
Learn about men
Learn about women
Learn about emotions
What you don't know about can destroy you. Ignorance about relationships has destroyed a lot of people. Don't be ignorant.

Invest in books on relationships, attend seminars, and listen to messages. I have written some books and you can start from there. Send me a message.

These are the few things you need to put in place before starting a relationship if you want to have a good experience.
✅ Know yourself
✅ Know the qualities you want in a partner
✅ Be ready
Starting a relationship begins with you.

In PART 2, I'll be showing you how to start the relationship properly.
What do you think about the points I raised in this post, let me know what you think in the comment below.

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