The silent treatment is a common vice that has eaten deeply into the fabric of many relationships and marriages. 

This is the deliberate act by one partner in the relationship or marriage in which he/she shifts from the regular conversation/communication to minimal or no communication that lasts longer than a reasonable period of time, after an argument or a misunderstanding.
For some couples, this tends into keeping malice for days, weeks, months, and in some extreme cases years. 
Communication is the life wire of any relationship and most especially it greases the wheels of your relationship or marriage vehicle. 

Silent treatment is a form of emotional abuse. It is deliberately hurting your partner's emotions and feelings. It leaves them feeling frustrated, worthless, unloved, unimportant, and less valuable.
Silent treatment is a manipulative tactic that can leave important matters in a relationship/marriage unresolved and unattended to. 
More often than not, if not nipped in the bud, the silent treatment can ground the vehicle of your relationship/marriage. It can lead to loss of interest, loss of intimacy, and loss of love. When love dies in a marriage, only God's grace can restore such a home. 

1. Don't keep quiet even when the other person is not talking. Keep TALKING! The devil wants to use the lack of communication to break your home. He wants you to drift apart and lose interest in each other. So, don't allow this. Keep the communication line active. 

2. Avoid responding in anger, rather respond calmly and be approachable. When responding to your partner who has chosen to mistreat you by giving you the silent treatment, don't respond in anger. I know this can be pretty hard but trust me, you can do it!

3. Avoid the blame games. Don't play the blame game with your partner. 

4. Avoid begging the other person. Don't fall into the trap of begging the other person for attention. Since he/she has chosen the silent treatment as a weapon, don't portray yourself as being at his/her mercy.

5. Listen attentively to why the other person has chosen the silent treatment method. It's important to know the "why" behind his/her decision to use the silent treatment. 

6. Get to the root of the matter. More often than not, the issue that led to this is usually left unresolved. Ensure everything is trashed once and for all. 

7. If a heated argument ensues, give time for the both of you to cool off. Don't engage in another bout of arguments. 

8. Make some rules that will work for the both of you. Set ground rules that will forestall such attitudes in the relationship/marriage.

9. Prioritize your mental health and self-care. In an event that things go south, ensure that you take good care of yourself. Don't let the matter get to you. Treat yourself to a nice time. Eat good food. Go out and have fun. Do things that you enjoy and would take your mind off the unpleasant situation.

10. Talk to a therapist, a marriage counselor or a clergyman. These set of people can be of immense help to resolving the issue. 
Wishing you a blissful marriage.

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