Thursday, July 28, 2022

How To Easily Understand Your Spouse Character In Marriage Or Relationship

It's really gonna be a long read but our ability to overcome this area will help us solve over 90% of issues in our relationship with our partners. 
For me, I think some of the issues we have in marriages can be minimized if we get to understand our partner's temperament. Otherwise certain things they do or say will easily get us angry. 
I'm not so deeply of this opinion about an introvert marrying an extrovert and vice versa, it is actually a good combination but then what really matters is ensuring that they're both in line with God's will. Of course, there are some partners who are both introverts and are doing well together and are similar to extroverts. All because they've come to understand each other's temperament.
We are all born with one of the four primary temperaments, I'll speak below, which indicates our natural predisposition to react in certain ways.  


Here are the 4 temperaments, yours and that of your partner inclusive:
1) Confident: A sanguine partner is primarily known to be highly talkative, enthusiastic, active, and social. They tend to be more extroverted and enjoy being part of a crowd; for them, being social, outgoing, and charismatic is easy to accomplish. So, if you marry or you are in a relationship with a sanguine, you would see them exhibit more of these attributes. Although most times you misunderstand them to be cheating because of their easygoing nature, once you come to understand them, you know they have a limit to certain things they do.

2) Melancholy: Melancholic partners tend to be analytical and detail-oriented, and they are in-depth thinkers and feelers. They are introverted and try to dodge being singled out in a group. They are thoughtful, reserved, and often anxious. Another thing is they tend to be of few words but once they are free being around you, trust me they talk more than a sanguine.

3) Choleric: Choleric partners are also known to be extroverted. They are often independent, decisive, goal-oriented, and ambitious. These conjoined with their dominant, result-oriented outlook make the choleric a natural leader. If you marry a choleric, just know that they love coordination, the bed has to be dressed, your shoes properly racked, your car key kept in the drawer, not the dining table, and your dresses neatly folded, among others.

4) Unemotional: Unemotional partners are comfortable, peaceful, quiet, and easy-going. They are sympathetic and care about others, yet they try to hide their emotions. They are also introverted and for this kind of partner, nothing appears to always disturb them so much for a long time, everything for them is just okay, alright, it's well, lol....they don't over worry themselves about certain things.
So, 
Knowing your partner's temperament, as well as your own, provides a detailed understanding of their specific needs, strengths, weaknesses, and tendencies. 

It will help you know:
1) The best time to initiate a conversation? Some temperament types need a “cool down” alone time when they come through the door at the end of the day. Others want to get things fixed and addressed now! Having that understanding can help you plan a strategic conversation. If you don't know when to talk to a cool-down partner, your talk may be getting him or her angry, that is how the cold war used to start. 

2) How important financial issues are. Some characters are prone to a fear of economic loss while others are not as concerned. If you need to examine finances with a fear-prone temperament (melancholy), there are some recommended approaches to doing that. Sanguine temperaments tend to have very little concern about finances and live for the moment. How do you present economic issues in a way that will get the sanguine’s attention?

3) How you can recognize anger in your hubby? Partners who yell and scream are pretty easy to analyze. However, some temperaments do not express anger overtly in everyday situations and arguments. Unresolved internalized anger will ultimately result in an explosion. 

4) The best words to use and NOT use during arguments? Some temperaments respond best to facts and logic while others delve into feelings and emotions. If you want to connect with your spouse, it would be helpful to know their mode. Some talk a lot and others talk very little. These differences are also a reflection of different temperaments. 

If you are married or engaged and have never had a temperament analysis done, I strongly inspire you to do this. Ask your partner about their temperament and tell them you are too, so you know how well you both will relate with each other.

To avoid praying futile prayers, know your partner's temperament. The earlier you know that your partner's temperaments do not change, but God can renew their minds and help them change certain attitudes and behaviors, the better you come to the understanding that it's gonna be a forever and a day after with them and their Character.
Wisdom is what? 

May God help us to understand our partner and help them too to understand us. Amen. 

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