Thursday, June 23, 2022

8 ATTITUDES THAT CAN DESTROY MARRIAGE OR RELATIONSHIP IN A MINUTE.

1) LAZINESS: Laziness is something that look and sound small but has the power to ruin everything beautiful in your life, and it has both physical and spiritual effect in one's life. A lazy man/woman won't be able to set any target or meet any goal in life, Laziness has made some women loose their marriage/respect. 


A lazy woman will find it difficult to do chores and no man can tolerate a smelling/dirty house, a lazy woman will find it difficult to work or even run a business hence become financially incapable which is a terrible thing. A lazy man won't be able to provide for his home and if you can't provide for your home, the Bible says you're worse more than an infidel. Proverbs 10:4 A slack hand causes poverty, but the hand of the diligent makes rich.

2) NAGGING: Many women are on this table, some women can nag a dead man back to live, every little thing you quarrel about it, your friends and siblings know you, even your parents are tired, a nagging spirit is a terrible spirit you need to fight. When you quarrel too much, you talk too much when you're angry, you cause serious harm to yourself and your spouse. Proverbs 21:19. "It is better to live in the desert land than to live with a quarrelsome and angry woman" imagine how terrible life can be in the desert, but the Bible says it's better to live like that than to live with a nagging wife. No man will be able to put up with that attitude.

Some women finds it easy to talk down on their husbands, you call him all sorts of derogatory names because you have issues with him, you call him stupid, idiot, fool and you're wondering why he doesn't have money to take care of you? You're wondering why he's not getting contracts and why his job is not going well? How can a fool make headway in life? How can an idiot get a contract? How can a stupid man make you happy? Ephesian 4:29. "Let no corrupt talk come out of your mouth, but only such as good for building up as fits the occasion that it may give grace to those who hears.

3) ANGER: This spirit is deadlier than the most deadly virus in the world, while the most deadly virus in the world may take days/weeks to kill, anger can kill in a second. Both men and women needs to fight this, I just watched a clip now where a man was hitting his wife's head with an iron, pressing iron, that can kill in a minute because of anger, we need to learn to control our emotions. When your spouse gets you angry, and you feel you can't stand it, talk a walk, go out for fresh air, play a game, listen to music, sip some wine, cool off, and you can revisit it when the coast is clear, don't ever let your emotions get the best of you so that you won't end up on the gallows or in prison. Psalms 37:8. "Cease from anger and forsake wrath, fret not thyself in any wise to do evil".

4) MOOD SWINGS: This sounds so simple but it nearly cost me my marriage. To God be the glory I have been counselling before I got married so I thought I shouldn't have any issues but I had issues with mood swing. I can be happy now and in next minute I'm moody, and my husband would be wondering what's wrong, he couldn't understand me, it took him 2-3 years to understand that side of me and I had to work on myself too. It's normal for women to have mood swings once in a while but it shouldn't become a norm because your husband may get tired and start ignoring you, and then you may feel he doesn't love you anymore which may lead to another problem but the truth is the guy is tired of asking what's wrong with you all the time, so we need to learn to manage our emotions so as not to create unnecessary trouble for ourselves.

5) EXTRAVAGANT SPENDING: You don't need to buy the latest electronic or wears, you don't need to impress anybody by spending the money you don't have, ask some women how much is in their account, nothing. But these set of women will never miss an occasion, birthdays, weddings, burials they are there with all the Aso ebi and heavy golds. It's not wise. If you can't save for raining days, if the tide turns, you will find yourself in serious mess because help may not come from those your friends you bought their Aso ebi. 

Save, learn to save from whatever you earn, it will save you some troubles in the future. Proverbs 21:20 There is treasure to be desired and oil in the dwelling of the wise; but a foolish man spendeth it up" and for men who would rather spend on side chicks than on their wives and children, you need rehabilitation. You are pouring water inside a basket, it's a waste. Proverbs 29:3 "Whoso loveth wisdom rejoiceth his father: but he that keepeth company with harlots spendeth his substance/waste his wealth".

6) TOO MUCH TALKING: This is more on the women side, some women are talkative, they talk to the point of telling their friends what is meant to stay between her and her husband, the family secrets is already headline news. Your husband is pursuing a contract, your friends already knows about it, you have no secret, you can't keep your mouth shut, it's a terrible disease, learn to bridle your tongue. 

There is wisdom in quiteness. Eccl 9:17 The words of wise men are heard in quiet more than the cry of him that ruleth among fools. And another aspect to this is when hubby is angry with you because you did something wrong or something he didn't like, it's difficult for many women to just admit and say sorry instead they will say something that will grieve him the more and pour more petrol on fire instead of just pouring water, women be wise. Proverbs 15:1. A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.

7) BAD FRIENDS: Show me your friend and I will tell you where you will end. Your circle of friends determines to a great extent weather your marriage will be great or not. The influence your friends has on your marriage will determine if your marriage will last or not. Your friends can either make you or mare you, choose your friends wisely, sieve any advice given to you by your friends, if it's not good for your marriage drop it. Your marriage is more important to you than your friends, set your priorities right, keep your marriage/relationship away from friends. 1corinthians 15:33 "Be not deceived: evil communications corrupt good manners.

8) LUST ON OPPOSITE GENDER: This is both in heart of men and women but it's more common with men. Your wife is not enough for you, you chase after side chicks, what exactly do you want? Lust will lead you to a terrible end, if it doesn't kill you, it will kill your wife, scatter your marriage, your children may suffer it. Is there anything you see in a side chick that isn't in your wife? Fix it. If she was not beautiful to your taste, you wouldn't marry her, now her body has changed, you're the reason for that. She made you a father, it's not her fault, get her gym equipment, motivate her to exercise, buy her fitting clothes, change her wardrobe often, the money you're spending on side chicks, spend it on your wife and see if she won't beat your side chicks. 

Spending on side chicks is investing in an unprofitable business, waste of virtues and wealth. Your wife is your responsibility, your business, your investment, spend on her and make her glow for you, if you live with many of these side chicks, you will discover that they are full of trash, you can't imagine what you're sleeping with, they are full of dungs, they are dirty things, forget the way they look when you meet, do you know how many other men sleeping with them? They are just using you to make money while your innocent wife is at home praying for you to make more money, Husbands be wise, Love your wife the way God commanded it. 

You cannot love your wife and have side chicks, quote me anywhere and I'll defend it. It's an error for you to say you love your wife and you have side chicks. Woman listen, if he claims to love you and he has side chicks he is lying. He can buy you airplane and buy you the whole world and take you on tour, he's only fulfilling his responsibility as a husband. Love is more than that. Husbands keep to your promise/vow on your wedding day, and God will honour you.
Remember adultery is a terrible sin, God frowns at it.

You will not fail in marriage in Jesus name, AMNEN

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