Recognizing God's Signs: How to Know if Your Partner Is Chosen by God..

About 3 weeks ago, I wrote that the best way to find a life partner is to allow God to choose for you because He's the only One that knows the best-suited and fitted person for your life and destiny.

As expected, the post met some reactions from different people.

Some people saw the importance of what I was saying and asked me how they can allow God to choose for them or how they will know the person God has chosen for them.

Some other people dismissed the possibility of God choosing a life partner for His children that allowed Him to choose for them.

They argued that God does not choose a wife for people, that ever since Adam accused God of choosing Eve for him, He hands off from choosing a partner for His children.

Some even quoted the Scripture: "He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord, "(Prov. 18:22) to refute what I said.

But they forgot that right in the next chapter of the same book of Proverbs, the Bible says, "Houses and wealth are inherited from parents, but a PRUDENT WIFE IS FROM THE LORD." (Prov. 19:14)

The scripture even asked two vital questions...

1. "Many claims to have unfailing love, BUT A FAITHFUL MAN WHO CAN FIND?"(Prov. 20:6)

2. "A WIFE OF NOBLE CHARACTER WHO CAN FIND? She is worth far more than rubies."(Prov. 31:10)

Who can help you to find a faithful man in this generation if not God?

Who can help you TO find a woman of noble character, a virtuous woman if not God?

You are a limited individual, you are limited in knowledge and foresight.

Do you know the person that best suits your needs in life and destiny more than God?

Do you know the person you think is best for you?

Do you know what that person will turn out to be in the future?

You don't. This is more reason you need to allow God to choose for you.

Here's how it happens...

You are a free moral agent, and that means you have the right to make your own choices.

You can make your own choices, that's one of the greatest power God has given to man. You can choose who you want to marry, and God will not fight you for it. He respects your choice. Your choice, your consequences.

But then, if you are afraid of the future if you are afraid that you will make the wrong choice of a life partner and want God to choose for you, you have to step aside, you have to surrender your choice to Him. God won't force anyone on you. You have to ask Him FIRST before He will interfere. Until you hand over, He can't take over.

This is how to allow God to choose for you...

As a brother, you are seeking a helpmate for your life and destiny, you don't just corner a sister because she's beautiful, endowed, or a prayer warrior, she may not suit your life and the dimensions of your destiny.

Instead, you go to God in prayers and ask Him to help you choose a wife that suits your life and the destiny He has for you-a help meet indeed.

As a sister, believing God for a husband, when men start approaching you, seeking your hand in marriage or a relationship, you don't just accept anyone because he's handsome and wealthy or jumps into a relationship with him, that man may be your burial ground.

Instead, you go to God in prayers to know among the men, the one He has chosen for your life and destiny.

Now, after praying how do you know if that brother or sister is the person God has chosen for you?

The first thing to do is to know how God speaks to you as an individual.

God has various and peculiar ways He speaks to and directs His children. So you have to know how God speaks to you personally. How does God speak to you??

Let's look at various ways God speaks and directs His children...

1. The Word of God. God speaks and leads through the Word by making a particular verse of the Bible that is similar to what you are going through or asking for to stand out or to make a deep impression on you. You know how some words used to touch you deeply, that's what I mean.

For example, God can use this verse to warn you not to enter a relationship or marriage with that person: "There is a way that appears to be right, but in the end, it leads to death." (Proverbs. 14:12)

Or He can use this verse to give you His approval to go ahead, "...surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age.”(Matt. 28:20)

This is how God leads by the Word, He causes a verse to stand out to you.

2. Inner peace. The presence of peace of mind or lack of peace of mind is another way God speaks and leads.

If you are about to go into a relationship or marriage with someone and you have peace of mind, nothing troubles your mind about it or you don't have peace about it, God may be speaking to you. Pause and listen.

3. Inner witness. This is a supernatural knowing that's beyond every reasonable doubt. The knowledge comes from the Spirit. You just know that this is the person for you but you can't tell how you arrived at that conclusion, that's inner witness.

You know that the brother or the sister is for you just like you know your name. It's knowing. That's one of the ways God speaks.

4. Inner voice. This voice comes from your inside. Now and then, we're always saying something on the inside.

If God speaks to you in this way, He will speak to your heart and you will know. Look at this scriptural example, "The Spirit told Philip, “Go to that chariot and stay near it.”(Acts 8:29)

5. Audible voice. This is hearing a voice with your ears but you can't see who's talking to you.

Isaiah 30:21 explains what I mean in a better way, "Whether you turn to the right or the left, your ears will hear a voice behind you, saying, “This is the way; walk in it.”

6. Prophet/pastor/leader/mentor. Sometimes God can speak to other people on your behalf. When you are not sensitive enough or lacking in understanding of what He is telling you, He can talk to your leader, Pastor, mentor, or prophet on your behalf.

However, you need to confirm it to know if God is the One speaking. I will get to that shortly.

7. Visions and Revelations. This is another way God speaks and directs, through visions and revelations.

Under vision and revelations, we have...

Dreams. These are visionary experiences during sleep. The things you see while you're sleeping. God can come to your dream and reveal His will.

Trance. This is a situation of being half asleep and half awake. You're not sleeping and you're not awake, you're just in between and then you see or hear something. That's a trance.

So God can speak to you either through dreams or trance, he can reveal His will through these means.

These are just some of the ways God reveals His will to His children.

How do you know if what you have seen or heard is from God?

1. Put it to the test of the Word of God. Whatever you see or hear must conform to the Word of God. If you're a believer and you see yourself getting married to an unbeliever, that dream is likely not from God because the Bible says that we should not be unequally yoked with an unbeliever.

A man who wants you to get pregnant for him before he marries you is not the will of God for you.

A sister that wants to sleep with you to know if you're man enough to perform cannot be the will of God.

The Bible says we should flee fornication and immorality in general.

2. Peace of mind test. Another way to confirm if what you heard or saw is from God is through the presence of peace of mind or the absence of peace.

If you're doing something and you don't have peace, God is telling you to stop it.

If you're doing something and you have peace of mind, and the thing is in line with the Word of God, that's a sign that God is involved.

Let me close by saying that if you are not a child of God the things I have said here may be useless and meaningless to you. God cannot direct or lead you because you are not His child. If you want the leading and direction of God, then you have to repent of your sins and accept the Lord Jesus Christ into your life that's only when God will be obligated to help you.

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