So many young people especially those that are above 18 years but are not yet Married are thinking that money is everything in marriage. They think that being a millionaire can save someone from being in a bad marriage all because they can go on vacation or holiday to any part of the world they want to go to, but they forget the 1 major thing that can save them from being in a bad marriage.
Now you may have asked, what is the major thing that can save someone from being in a bad marriage? How to avoid a bad marriage, or how to escape or save a bad marriage. The overall answer to these questions is trust.
Trust is a principal pillar in relationships and marriage. Trust is to a relationship or marriage what oxygen is to our lives. Without trust, there can not be a very serious relationship or marriage between two different individuals.
However, trust is built over a period of time. It's mainly a product of WHO and WHAT you are, not what we say we are to others. Whether in a relationship or marriage, trust is a PERSONALITY and it can't be overlooked, not a term or word as we assume. That's why no matter what one says about themselves to other people, it will never be as important as what they do. So who are you to your spouse or to others outside your marriage?
Trust is not easy to come by these days because it is very "expensive that not everyone can afford to give it to their partners," so cheap folks can't possess it because of its expensive nature. Trust is life.
Sometimes some people make wrong moves that leave their spouses doubting their integrity and personal life. As powerful as trust is, it's as fragile as an egg a glass cup, or a mirror. Just as eggs, a glass cup, or a mirror are handled with extreme care, so also is trust in a relationship or marriage. When trust has been tampered with by a careless partner, a relationship or marriage becomes weak or nonexistent in the true sense of it.
Friends, relationships, or marriage have rules that must be strictly adhered to by the couples if they truly want to be happy in their marriage. Godliness is the principal pillar in a relationship or marriage but trust can't be taken for granted. Trust is about integrity, and godliness helps us achieve integrity which in turn will result in the trust we expect to have in our marriage or relationship. A truly godly person should be a person of integrity and who is also trusted by his or her spouse.
No matter how special your spouse is to you, if you make wrong moves in your Marriage, your spouse will suspect you and when you are suspected of mismanaging the trust the person has for you, consequently you will be distrusted by your spouse. If you are the type that always makes or receives secret phone calls away from your spouse or lover, that's a wrong move to your marriage, your spouse will suspect and have distrust over time. If you are the type that plays carelessly and very intimately with the opposite gender, that's a wrong move for your spouse, your sweetheart or lover will suspect and distrust because of that act.
If you are the type that always frowns at and objects to your spouse touching or using your phone, laptops, etc., that's a wrong move to your marriage, your spouse or lover will suspect and distrust you over time. If you are the type that keeps intimate contact with your ex-lover, that's a wrong move against your marriage, your spouse or lover will suspect and distrust you over time. If you are the type that mismanages family finances, that's a wrong move against your marriage, your spouse or lover will suspect and distrust you over time. The list continues.
Wrong moves are irrational, senseless, insensitive, sinful, damaging, unnecessary, harmful, and unacceptable due to how dangerous they can be to your marriage. You can't be acting suspiciously and recklessly and expect your lover not to suspect or distrust you in that Marriage. Love breeds trust, but when either one or both spouses make the wrong move in a marriage, trust will crumble like a pack of cards. Love is not enough in marriage, trust must be there to make that Marriage sweet and romantic.