Sunday, September 17, 2023

The 15 Best Ways To Be A Loving Good Father To Your Family..

1) Be There When You Are Needed. The biggest failure of a man is having a child and rejecting that child at the same time, abdicating his duties as a father, being quick to make love with his wife, and quicker to run away when pregnancy comes into the marriage. 

Too many children are unhappy because of a father who is alive but has disowned them indirectly, it makes the child grow up feeling unwanted and unloved by someone who's supposed to show him love and care, and it dents the child's self-esteem and confidence, and some become adults with a constant feeling of rejection in the mind. If you ever have a child, be there for that child; no matter what happened and how bad things are between you and the mother of the child to the extent of divorce, be there for that child when you are needed; you owe it to them one as your responsibility.

2) Always Tell Your Daughter She Is Beautiful. The first man to compliment a girl should be her father while growing up, the first man to take note of her beauty should be her dad and that shows he appreciates her as a gift from God. A girl should grow up convinced she is beautiful and feel like a king's daughter that even when boys and men try to talk to her about a relationship, saying she's beautiful she will respond "I know, dad has been telling me that for many years." Too many girls fall for preying men because they are desperately looking for affection, and someone to appreciate their endowment, they have daddy issues and had no encounter with a male figure who genuinely loved them before the preying men noticed their attractive and irresistible boobs and hips; so they fall prey to men who use compliments and give them attention as a carrot to lure to a trap that leads to hurt.

3)Model Manhood To Your Sons. A boy comes into the world as a naive student who will learn what the male figures around him teach. He can be taught the right way to be a man or be misled in the wrong direction of being a man. He learns how to treat women around him whether good or bad from the men around him. He should learn proper manhood from the father who is expected to be close to him every day. The father should be a role model to him and regularly educate him on how best to treat and respect females starting from their youngest, how to respect as a man as well, how to work smart, how to provide for himself and for his younger ones, how to be a man of integrity and dignity. 

This learning should be in the form of loving mentorship and coaching, too many men grow up in the absence of their fathers, and too many grow up with a father who puts too much pressure on the poor boy in order to win daddy's approval that they grow up frustrated and angry at the world because their transition from boy to man was a cruel experience and made to be a test to win a nod than a smooth mentorship process. Too many boys are left to find their way and in so doing they have managed to form The Habit Of Eating With Your Family. Food brings people together even people that are keeping malice, one of the greatest shows of security to a child is when the dad makes time to share meals with him or her. Even if is not his favorite meal, endeavor to share a piece with him, it gives joy.

5) Be The Spiritual Leader Of Your Family. The father should be the High Priest of his family. He should lead the child or his children towards living a Godly life, he should be seen praying for them or with them, reading God's word together and even teaching them to understand it passage by passage, living out a Godly life should be seen in him as a father, showing them how to care, and love each other. The child should be given a Godly foundation that will shape a stable future for him and the father should be seen submitting to God who gave the child life and who makes parenthood possible for him.

6) Be A Good Listener. A child with a father who loves to listen to him grows in confidence. When a child feels he or she can tell daddy anything and his Dad will support and fight for him, believe it, no battle will intimidate that child. Sometimes you don't have to say many words to motivate your child, just sit back and pay attention to his or her request. The first need of love is to be a good Listener, to be treated like how you feel and what you have to say is important to your father. That's the dream of every child.

7) Give Quality Advice. A father should be there to offer counsel to his child whether solicited or not. Children always cry for a reason and direction. As a Dad, be involved in the process of seeking answers to the needs of your child. Be open about your mistakes and faults, and do not tell lies that you used to get straight A's in school during your childhood days, your lesson notes are excellent, and your expectations of the child pass a message that you are a loving father. 

 Give advice without giving a break, not as a dictator whose word is final otherwise you isolate yourself from the child because the child can't do what you ask yet fear and despise you; but help the child understand why you are insisting on your own way, after all, you want the best for him or her, help the child understand your reasons for taking such decision, train your child to think through solutions and resolutions; this way, he or she will grow up with the self-sufficient capacity of making sound and wise decisions every day of his life.

8) Be Present At All Time. The father's presence should be felt by his children at all times. So many fathers have left parenting to their wives. The best taste of love is the giving of time, do not fail this because it will negatively affect your children.

9) Stop Throwing Money At The Problem. No matter how rich you may be, fatherhood is not done by throwing money at issues just to calm the person down. When your child complains of your absence at home whenever problems arise when dealing with your child becomes a handful and you feel you have no time to deal with the challenge affecting that child; don't use the money to silence or appease your child. Fatherhood is a hands-on approach thing, it will not be easy but its fruits are sweet and awesome. Don't escape through your ATM card. Material things can contain a child for a moment, but soon the child will look around and see empty things but no love from his or her father.

10) Always Show Up. Make daddy appearances because your child needs it from you; show up at your child's sports day in school, birthday in school, parent's day in school or in the church, graduation day, or any other special day in the life of that child. Make random visits to what your child cares a lot about even if for a few moments. Meet your child's friends briefly to know who they are and their lifestyle, and let your children feel daddy's loving eyes are watching over them. 

An employee feels special when the boss makes a random visit to smile at the employee's work and appreciate him or make corrections, a citizen feels special when the President makes a surprise visit to greet the citizen and praise them for being a good citizen, a child feels special when daddy makes a loving phone call or shows up to demonstrate he cares and gives affection.

11) Be Your Children's Superhero. Be a strength to your child, the rock that is a shelter to his people, the refuge of the homeless, and the defender of the powerless, these are what your children want from you. The attributes of God the Heavenly Father should be part of your prayer Points for the good of your children, and model them as their earthly fathers.

12) Cast A Vision On Your Children's Life. Join hands together with the mother of your children, and cast a vision into your family. Define what you expect from your child because children love living up to a standard. Make the vision and values that should govern your family plain and simple for the child to live with it. Your role is to show leadership to everyone in the family.

13) Always Stay Focused Because They Are Watching You. Prophecies and vision are not enough, you must not abandon your sheep. A man is the one who proposes to a woman for marriage, he initiates the formation of a family foundation, but too many men abandon the family they themselves started. They start having affairs outside their marriage, wasting time and money on women instead of taking care of their family, and being distracted by meaningless pursuits as their children suffer in society. Don't let go of the steering wheel, drive your family car with its full course.

14) Be A Success Story To Your Children, Succeed As A Father. Make efforts to succeed in your profession, succeed in life too, and shine like a star in society. Children love to brag about their father's achievements, be the best man in your child's or children's eyes, the one to grow up to admire. Let it be an honor to carry your name as a surname for your child.

15) Love Their Mother. Your wife acquires a new position when you have children from her, she is not just your wife but the mother of your children as well. Your child or children love both of you the same way and the desire of a child is to see mummy and daddy in love working as a team for their own good. A child should grow up with the demonstration of how true love looks like from his or her parents. Let this be seen in you.

Train up your child in a way that when he or she grows up, that child will not depart from that godly way.

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